• Lifestyle

    Sh*t They Don’t Tell You About Adulting

    Adulting is hard. I can’t tell you how many times I complain a day about having to “adult”. I really wish there was a handy manual that I could refer to when I can’t get my head around something, or better yet – I wish someone had told me what I was to expect when I grew up. Do you ever wonder what life would be like if they had taught us budgeting or money management when we were in school? Things like taxes, mortgages or setting up a savings plan. If you were lucky to have parents who helped you out with that, all I can say is that…

  • Life

    2018 Goals

    My last post of 2017 mainly focused on what had happened in the year and ended with a couple of questions about what I’ll be doing in terms of self-improvement/self-love/self-care. I really enjoyed answering those questions and it felt good to write everything down. I feel like with writing those answers and publishing them on my blog for everyone to see, I must now be held accountable.  This post will focus on my actual goals for 2018. I FaceTimed my cousin last night, and she really inspired me with her own goals for the year. She said that she feels like this year is going to be her year and…

  • Let's Talk About...,  Thoughts

    Let’s Talk About Relationships

    Much like my ‘Being Mixed Race’ post, this topic has been floating around my drive for a while and I’ve been wanting to write about it for ages. Since starting the ‘Let’s Talk About…’ series, I’ve been thinking about what topics I can write about and thought this is the perfect opportunity – especially as it has been a while since the last post. Relationships are a tough topic for me just because they’re always so complex to dive into – questions like, “Why did this break down?” “Why did I even date them in the first place?” “Will I be single forever?” But it is such an interesting topic…

  • Life

    A Letter to my 18-year old self

    You can read the letter to my 16-year old self here. Dear Chynna, Where do I even start with you? You’re a literal mess and still about boys ruling your life. I know… you don’t purposely do this. If only time travel existed and I could go back in time and shout at you for getting in a relationship so quickly. In fact if I owned a DeLorean or a TARDIS, Lord knows I would travel so far back to save you. At the same time, there’s all that lesson learnt and shit and you have to learn from your mistakes and you grow from them, blah blah blah. Whatever.…

  • Thoughts

    Relationship Truths

    I haven’t been completely honest. The dating game is a hard game to play. Some of my readers will know that I was in relationship, which has now since ended. Relationships are a funny thing. You never know if you’ve jumped in too quickly, until after it has ended. In the beginning there is always a honeymoon period and you think the sun shines out of their arse. Everything is all rosy and peachy and it feels like nothing can go wrong. Then it does. Relationships have always been tricky for me. I’ve never been one to hold a relationship for more than a year. I don’t know what it…

  • Life,  Thoughts

    Dating Conventions

    I’ve gotten to that point in my life where I’ve started to question all these so-called conventions when it comes to dating. This includes who should text first, how many days should you wait before texting/calling him, who should call first, etc. It’s all a bit ridiculous, I’ve realised. I’m a pretty impatient person, so if I just sit around waiting like I usually do then nothing will get done because we all know that guys are really, really clueless all the time sometimes. I don’t think guys realise how much they keep girls waiting and on edge. It’s annoying. I mean, really, what’s so wrong with the girl calling…

  • Life,  Thoughts

    How to Deal with Heartbreak

    I honestly have no clue. Why am I even writing this post? Oh yes. Because for the second time in my 20 years of existence I got my heart broken, and I wasn’t even in a relationship. It sucks really. Actually, it more than sucks. There are no words for what I’m feeling right now except maybe hurt, angry and broken. I have a few tips with how to deal with it, though. You’d think because I have these tips I could totally be fine with having my heart broken. Again. You’re wrong. Oh so, wrong. 1. Don’t think you can get over it just like that It will takes months, maybe…

  • Life

    The Way You Make Me Feel

    Mutay has a new link! Go check her out @ ohmutay.com Let the record show that I am the most awkward person in this entire universe… especially when it comes to guys. But maybe I should start from the beginning. That would be a better idea. Let me start from my time in London up until yesterday in fact. So, last Thursday I had a hospital appointment in which the doctor’s feel they needed to see me just to check that I’m okay and my medication is up to date when really they could have just phoned me but hey-ho. I decided to just stay in London for the weekend because it…

  • Life

    Information Overload

    Right, first things first. I am sorry. I am very sorry that it has been nearly a month since my last post but to be fair, I do have a lot of updates to get through with you guys. So bare with me please. I am so far behind in replying to comments, it’s ridiculous but I swear as soon as this is posted I am getting right on it. I just want to say thank you to those still bothered to come and check on my blog and commented even whilst I was away. You are all angels and I am sitting making virtual cookies for you all. Please…