I honestly have no clue. Why am I even writing this post? Oh yes. Because for the second time in my 20 years of existence I got my heart broken, and I wasn’t even in a relationship. It sucks really. Actually, it more than sucks. There are no words for what I’m feeling right now except maybe hurt, angry and broken. I have a few tips with how to deal with it, though. You’d think because I have these tips I could totally be fine with having my heart broken. Again. You’re wrong. Oh so, wrong.
1. Don’t think you can get over it just like that
It will takes months, maybe even years to get over heartbreak. Don’t expect to get over the person the next day because if you force it, it will just make it worse. If you could turn off feelings, I would be all up on that but alas you can’t. If you do find yourself getting over the person in a few days then, well obviously, you weren’t really into them. Sorry.
2. Don’t attempt to get over them by getting with someone else
Because at the end of the day you’ll just feel like a dickhead. 1. You’re using the person you’re getting with. 2. The person isn’t really going to care, to be honest. 3. You’ll just keep thinking, “What have I done?!” and just feel like absolute sh*t. Plus that person you’re using might end up liking you and well, that’s always a sticky situation.
3. Surround yourself with friends
Your friends will always be there for you no matter (unless they aren’t, then they’re sh*tty friends). If you have the right friends they will try their best to cheer you up. Even if you don’t want to tell them what happened, it’s always best to hang out with friends and have a laugh rather than be at home moping around by yourself.
4. Watch YouTube videos of cute kittens
There’s need be no explanation. Or alternatively, watch BriBryontour. “We’re Irish boys, so make some noise. We don’t do tans ’cause freckles get the ladies. We like making hairy babies.”
5. Write down all your feelings in a diary
You don’t have to make public what you’re feeling but instead write down all your emotions into a diary. You might still feel a little upset about the situation but at least you’ve written it somewhere and you might feel a weight lift off your shoulder if you felt that you couldn’t tell someone about it. A diary is always a good thing to keep, just make sure no-one reads it. Duh.
6. Distract yourself
Whether this be by taking up an arts and crafts project or throwing yourself into schoolwork, it’s always best to keep active so that you’re not moping around and not getting on with your life. See the thing is, if you’re stuck in that moping stage then the person who broke your heart has ‘won’ in a way. They still have a hold on your life and that’s never a good thing.
7. Write a song
You can be like the next Taylor Swift. Except, you’ll probably learn from your mistakes and not jump onto the next available dick (Did you hear she’s with Ed Sheeran now? Jesus, that woman) If you’re good at writing songs, you can always pour your feelings into one. It’s like the writing in a diary thing except add music. Tada!
8. Comfort eat
Just don’t eat so much that you get fat. But it’s always nice to get a tub of Ben & Jerry’s and curl up into a ball and watch sappy romantic films for one day. Make that several days in the week. What? Ben & Jerry’s is good. :3
9. Don’t attempt to contact them if they haven’t contacted you
Don’t be one of those clingy people and send dozens of messages to the person everyday like, “WHYYYYY?!” and “WHAT DID I DO WRONG?” It just makes you look pathetic, really. Don’t come across as desperate. Get control of your life. If anything, if you’re friends with them on Facebook restrict their arse or delete them because you might find yourself stalking their profile at any given moment.
10. Silence is powerful.
Did they hurt you bad? Like, real bad? Are they trying to talk to you like nothing happened? Give them silence. Don’t let them know how you’re doing until one day you pop up on their FB newsfeed/Twitter timeline and you’re looking like you’re having the time of your life with a big fat grin on your face. They deserve nothing for breaking your heart. Nothing.
Happy March, everybody.