• Let's Talk About...,  Thoughts

    Let’s Talk About Relationships

    Much like my ‘Being Mixed Race’ post, this topic has been floating around my drive for a while and I’ve been wanting to write about it for ages. Since starting the ‘Let’s Talk About…’ series, I’ve been thinking about what topics I can write about and thought this is the perfect opportunity – especially as it has been a while since the last post. Relationships are a tough topic for me just because they’re always so complex to dive into – questions like, “Why did this break down?” “Why did I even date them in the first place?” “Will I be single forever?” But it is such an interesting topic…

  • The Feminist Diaries,  Thoughts

    Intersectional Feminism

    CHYNNA There is a danger in the way feminism works. I should elaborate. There is a danger in the way white feminism works. Everywhere we look there is something in the media. Reminding us of its unwillingness to take up how race, class and gender impact womanhood. Take a look at the recent Pepsi advert in which Kendall Jenner leaves her modelling gig and joins a protest. She hands over a can of Pepsi to a white male officer who in turn receives it, turns to his colleague and smiles. I can’t believe Kendall Jenner single-handedly stopped police brutality with a can of Pepsi. We should have been doing this…

  • The Feminist Diaries,  Thoughts

    A Culture of Casual Misogyny

    MUTAY Recently I came across casual misogyny in reference to my dressing style. I like to dress for comfort, so my wardrobe is full of non-form fitting clothes and baggy trousers. This sparked a conversation in the office about dressing more “lady-like”. I had one question for them ‘Why the hell are you projecting your idea of what ladies should be wearing on to me?’ Surely the autonomy lies on myself to garnish my body with the ill-fitting material that I so choose. I wish it was easier to be able to call men and women out on casual stereotyping but sometimes it’s hard because you feel like a nitpicking…

  • Thoughts

    Unapologetically Filipinx Jamaican

    “They’re your children? Are they adopted?” I remember standing at the bus stop feeling like a melon because a random stranger had asked my mother this question. She was offended, as anyone rightly would be. I was left with a sense that despite my mix I could never truly express my Filipinxness. I felt ashamed. When we think about identity, we usually focus on what we can see. If you were to look at me, you would probably be able to tell that I’m biracial. Living in London I have always had a sense of multiculturalism, which I know I am so blessed to have but growing up there was…

  • The Feminist Diaries,  Thoughts

    Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie in Conversation

    I posted last week about International Women’s Day and how there are some people who will take every opportunity to tear down a day that celebrates women from all walks of life. I included a quote from Maya Angelou, “I’m a woman, phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, that’s me.” But what makes me a phenomenal woman? If I boil it down simply, the supportive women in my life. My mother has always been a leading figure in my life, alongside my grandmother. My best friend, Mutay. My friends who I have known since secondary school. Behind every successful woman is herself – and an army of supportive ladies. Without these important people…

  • Thoughts

    Females Are Strong As Hell

    You know when you’re on Twitter and you’re happily scrolling, enjoying all the tweets supporting women, celebrating women, praising women and then suddenly a rogue tweet appears like, “Well, what about International Men’s Day?”.  Skkkkkkkrrrrtttttt. Dear @IOnlyThinkAboutMyself, First of all, there IS an International Men’s Day and if you actually took the time to research then you’ll find out it’s on November 19th. You know it really doesn’t take too long to type a couple of words. Secondly, why are you so butthurt that there is an International Women’s Day? It’s like turning up to a campaign about cancer and shouting, “Well, what about psoriasis?” Boy, having a day to…

  • Thoughts

    Being Mixed Race

    I’ve had this topic title floating around in my head since 7th September 2015. I know this because Notes told me so. I’m not sure why I chose now to actually write about this, but I feel better for writing it. I actually brainstormed before doing this, which is not something I usually do, but I wanted to be sure I included everything that has been floating around my head.

  • Let's Talk About...,  Thoughts

    Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby

    Lets talk about… I feel like sex is still a taboo subject to talk about – in a candid way, anyway. Perhaps I’m not looking in the right place, but I can’t seem to find a lot of bloggers that openly talk about this subject. I want to be that person who opens the door to this discussion. Aside from textbooks and doctors, I feel like there isn’t someone who I can turn to and read about how they feel about sex on a personal level. I’ve been watching Shannon Boodram’s videos lately. She’s amazing and so inspirational. Her videos have opened my eyes up not just to sex, but…

  • Thoughts

    Relationship Truths

    I haven’t been completely honest. The dating game is a hard game to play. Some of my readers will know that I was in relationship, which has now since ended. Relationships are a funny thing. You never know if you’ve jumped in too quickly, until after it has ended. In the beginning there is always a honeymoon period and you think the sun shines out of their arse. Everything is all rosy and peachy and it feels like nothing can go wrong. Then it does. Relationships have always been tricky for me. I’ve never been one to hold a relationship for more than a year. I don’t know what it…

  • Life,  OkCupid,  Thoughts

    Interning and Dating

    I consider myself very lucky to be in a job that I not only like, but in a field that I actually studied at university. All this was thanks to the first ever internship I did. As some of my readers might know, I interned at a place called Mutual Media from October 2013. I recently finished that internship to move on to a full time job at Move Digital, and I can honestly say I will miss that place. Not only was I paid at this internship, I also learnt many valuable lessons. Most internships you’ll come across in the UK aren’t paid for 3 months, and even then…