Warning: The word ‘fuck’ will be appearing a lot throughout this post, along with various other cuss words.
We’ve just entered the fourth month of this year, and I’ve already mentally written a list of 50 fucks I cannot give. However, for your sake, I’ve narrowed it down to 10 fucks I simply refuse to give this year. Je refuse. No puedo. Nope.
1. Pretending to be nice and friendly
I have a history of being nice to people who aren’t really that nice back. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll be polite but I’m not going out of my own way to make someone feel comfortable just for them to be rude. If you piss me off, you will know. There shall be no more beating around the bush.
2. What I blog about
I’ve realised that there have been a lot of things I’ve wanted to blog about, but I’ve held back – for no particular reason. It’s taken me a long time to realise that my blog is MINE, and that I can blog about whatever I want to. Who the fuck cares if it offends people? After all, freedom of speech. Don’t worry, though, I’m not going to start writing posts just to try and offend people.
3. Being single
Joining OkCupid has made me realise that I actually don’t mind being single. The dating scene can be such an emotionally draining place, and honestly, I can’t be arsed with that right now. Having said that, I will still go on dates, but I’m not going to be worried if they don’t go anywhere. Having a boyfriend shouldn’t be a priority, right now. I think your early twenties should be your selfish years – just think about yourself!
4. The music I listen to
So what if I still listen to ‘N Sync and The Backstreet Boys? I shouldn’t have to keep up with latest music just because it happens to be “in” right now. Let me stay in the 90s.
5. What I post on Facebook
There is so much shit I could post on Facebook that would probably offend the majority of my friends. This mostly includes the baby mamas, and I know if I post one thing they will jump all over it. Well, now I say this: WHO CARES? See number 2 about freedom of speech.
I am aware that a lot of people don’t like swearing. I respect that! However, I will swear as much as I fucking want to and you shouldn’t preach to me about it. You can ask me politely if I would mind, but don’t come at me with a 3 foot essay about how swearing is obscene and unladylike. I will just look at you and say:
7. Getting a financially secure job
I’ve given up all hope that I will have a financially secure job within the next month like I hoped. If that happens, fucking rejoice to the high heavens! However, if it doesn’t, it isn’t the end of the world. I’ve realised that I’m extremely lucky to even have ONE job that pays in a field that I enjoy, no matter how shit the pay. I shouldn’t take that for granted, at all, and keep complaining all the time. There are many, many graduates who are still looking for jobs within their fields, and are therefore stuck in dead end jobs in retail. To them, I wish you luck. You’ll get through this – I promise.
8. Dating the wrong men
I’m not at an age where I should worry about dating the “wrong” men. I’m still young, and I’m still finding myself. If I go on a few dates with the wrong men, so what? I can learn from that and life will continue as usual. It’s not rocket science.
9. Obsessing over the little things
This is mostly whether I’m qualified/talented enough to apply for a job. When I first looked for internships to apply to last year, I skipped out on a lot of jobs because their requirements intimidated me. However, I think that I should just go for it if I like the sound of the job and I think can that *I* can do it despite their requirements.
10. Compromising on feelings
“Sometimes you compromise for a shit friend who is self-absorbed, self-centred, and selfish. Sometimes you compromise with people who might end up hurting you in the end.” Nope. No. Nein. Fuck that, I say. FUUUUUCK that. Unless you’ve earned my friendship over the years, then I am not compromising anything for you.
In my opinion, if you learn how to not give a fuck then you’re set for life. The number one thing you have to realise is that people are judging you right this second, but listen to this: it doesn’t matter. You don’t need everyone to like you – the only people who you should care about are yourself, your family and your close friends.